Tag: Family Psychology
Man is endowed by nature the property that causes it to perform women’s desires and whims, to protect and preserve the family. Where is the failure occurred in the harmonious combination of male and female nature? If reproduction was always the dominant desire of people, but nowadays the relationship between a man and a woman does not different from the times of primitive society. The root of the problems of marriage and family is that man is continually developing creation, which always are born more and more desire, requiring filling. In modern society, raging passion: more money, more fame, honor, respect, more autonomy and independence. Moreover, encouraging a race for prestige, it is women, leaving no hope but this race someday lead. Maybe that’s why a century ago was organized by the feminist movement to liberate women from ‘family bondage’ and give the opportunity to fully participate in all spheres of life society.
Success in building a society where women enjoy the protection and unconditional preferential rights, has led to a paradoxical result. The woman not only lost the appeal to men as long-term partner, but she lost interest in the family way of life. It happened naturally, because rebuilding the society under its own interests, feminists have created a simple model of an ideal man. All institutions of modern society, ranging from hospitals and ending with the courts and the police have taken over the functions to be performed by a man. In this scenario, the woman feels completely independent and not dependent on their ‘men and can successfully compete with him in any field. Such an emancipated person of quite a number do not need brute masculine strength. For its part, the male part population does not want to associate themselves with a completely self-sufficient, well-protected persons of the female – it contradicts the very essence of man’s nature.
Thus, instead of a solid family, we have artificial entity consisting of individuals of the opposite sex, do not need each other. “You can not enter twice the same river” – spoken and sage was right – you can not revert to the old way of family life. Just needed restructuring of public consciousness in the understanding of how to build family relationships. No need to scoff at nature, she is able to retaliate, let’s learn to live as a man and woman are equally complement each other, equally felt its responsibility to society.
Ideal relations do not exist? Not at all. Maybe they rare, but certainly not a myth. Such relations are very much the way it is easy to identify. You just need to verify that they meet all the below items. Loyalty to Loyalty – immutable component of the ideal relationship. Because if treason can be caused by a different motivation – the desire to entertain the desire to take revenge, then the motive of loyalty to one – love. Without trust, confidence good relations can not be. Not to mention the ideal.
The golden rule of reference groups – all trust each other. When you know that on arrival home, you arrange interrogation about where and with whom and why so long you have been, you are unlikely to rush back. Better Sex American sexologists claim that 90% of divorces occur as a result of sexual disharmony. This is not surprising, because if sexual relations do not satisfy both, or at least one partner, then nothing else can replace them. Independence is relevant to each partner.
In an ember blew very well, but that does not mean that you constantly have to try all resemble each other. The presence of identical interests does not exclude the fact that you can have your own interests and preferences. And they make of you a shadow partner, and an interesting and colorful personality. Readiness change is often based on the collapse of relations is the reluctance of partners to make concessions and change something in their habits and principles. And only if both partners are able to overcome their pride and to something yourself to change – for example, quit smoking for the sake of a loved one or to stop spend at home drinking with friends, they can rely on strong and lasting relationships. Confidence Strong relationships differ confidence of partners in each other, and in the strength of their relationship. The stronger this belief, the more natural and freer behavior of partners within the relationship. Listening Happiness is when you understand. This formula will remember everything, but not everyone knows how to use it in life and particularly in relationships, how to make you understand? In addition to the ideal couples. They know what it takes just simply listen to each other. And hear. Joint pastime best match does not get tired from each other. Because they are always interesting and well together. They eat breakfast together, dine together, rest together, combine to make repairs and go to their parents. And when one of them about my partner says, "my second half "this is a little more than just a figure of speech. Tolerance is a paradox, but an ideal relationship is good precisely because they both partners realize that none of them perfect. And because they show the necessary tolerance for the weaknesses and vagaries of a loved one. And instead of pointless to spend energy on nerves and disadvantages of each other, they wisely shut his eyes to them. The ability to surprise in the ideal relationship partner always interested in each other, because they can surprise each other and avoid stereotyping of the behavior. Surprises, unplanned visits and the lack of patterns in the behavior can keep relations in a tone of arbitrarily long time.